You're concerned about master's parents. A little bondage, an occasional spanking and some oral sex. That's about as vanilla as it gets. What are you worried about?
Thanks for your interest.
If i'm honest i'll say that your question was a bit off putting at first but once i slept on it i was able to see that you clearly aren't familiar with our relationship. It's an easy mistake to make as an on line blog is really a snippet of what goes on in a 24 hour lifestyle.
i am more than a little guilty of not sitting down and writing about every single exchange that goes on between Master and i but i do believe that there is much to learn about our relationship from the inside out. Some bloggers have a talent, in that they are capable of grabbing one liners from their owners throughout each day and turning it into wonderful blog posts that give their readers more in depth looks at their relationships, i am working on doing that as well.
If i'm honest i'll say that your question was a bit off putting at first but once i slept on it i was able to see that you clearly aren't familiar with our relationship. It's an easy mistake to make as an on line blog is really a snippet of what goes on in a 24 hour lifestyle.
i am more than a little guilty of not sitting down and writing about every single exchange that goes on between Master and i but i do believe that there is much to learn about our relationship from the inside out. Some bloggers have a talent, in that they are capable of grabbing one liners from their owners throughout each day and turning it into wonderful blog posts that give their readers more in depth looks at their relationships, i am working on doing that as well.
Master has told me many times that the topics i write about are far too bland by definition. However, when we started the blog He didn't want to set any parameters and wanted me to feel a certain sense of freedom regarding the topics i wrote about. There was to be no difference in this blog and the journals i was using before. i was supposed to feel free to write anything and everything and feel no fear of reprisal from Him at all.
i may have gotten off topic there a bit but my point being, i know i haven't included as much of our BDSM, M/s, TPE life as my readers deserve and need to get a good picture of our true life. That being said, i would like to include something Master mentioned while He was reading what i was writing.
It's
about respect. Master doesn't give two hoots about anyone finding out
how we live our lives, but he'd prefer that his parents don't find out
because it would bother them. He would prefer to spare them the trouble,
whether he agrees with their beliefs or not.
Below are questions that Master posed to me after i brought this question to His attention;
Is having a collar locked on you 24 hours a day, every single day of your life vanilla?
Is wearing ankle chains more often than not and sleeping cuffed and chained every single night of your life vanilla?
Is having bits of chain, random cuffs and padlocks lying all over your house at any given moment vanilla? Is wearing ankle chains more often than not and sleeping cuffed and chained every single night of your life vanilla?
Is not being allowed to see, eat, speak, pee, poop, sleep, watch TV or anything imaginable without permission every single time vanilla?
Is having a big, locking wooden box with a seat in it, taking up a chunk of the den vanilla?
If
those things are vanilla, then i'm proud to be vanilla. This is real
life, not a play party. i won't apologize for not being up on a cross 12
hours a day or being hogtied to sleep every night.
i thank you for your question and your interest in our life. You are more than welcome to clarify your question, if i've taken it the wrong way.
MD's treasure
Well said!
ReplyDeleteI once posted on a FL group, about what an average day in our lives looked like, and several people commented that it sounded just the same as a vanilla marriage. And, sure, if your definition of kink is 24/7 hardcore sex and S&M, then we're pretty vanilla.
If you look at the attitude and mindset behind the actions, though, and all the little things that make us who we are outside of sex and play...then you start to get at the heart of what makes us *really* kinky, and I think that's the important part, not the bondage and toys.
Way to handle the question, and for getting across the point that real-life "kinky" doesn't have to be the same as 'fantasy' kinky.
Thanks Bre!
ReplyDeletei was glad for the opportunity to answer this question. i think i should be challenged and this was a good chance for me to take a good look at the blog, my writing, as well as our relationship.
Big hugs!!
Looks like you got your first Ahole on your journal..welcome to the haters club LOL.
ReplyDeleteYou know I posted on fetlife a couple weeks ago, and mentioned anal sex and this woman (domme rolls eyes) laid into me about "if thats as kinky as you get then you need to grow up." I didnt even bother to reply for I thought..how can ANYONE define kinky, Master pisses in my ass..is that kinky??? Is being leashed to the bed all night kinky? Anal sex? Who defines kinky??? I think..it is what you and your Master define..and not the thoughts of some drive by commentor or some domme or some website. Its what you to define..and everyone else..well they are just along for the ride.
hugs
starla
There's no contest here among those of us who live this way 24 hours a day, but only for the sake of this particular post, I have to wonder how many people out there truly live more extreme than we do. How many slaves out there have less freedom than Mine? I honestly don't care, but I think it's likely a small number. /shrug
ReplyDeletei love that remark Master, there is no contest here among those of us who live this way.
ReplyDeletei write this journal because You've directed me to do so and because i love it, it's never been a competition.
i love my readers very much but Starla's comment holds so much merit, it's what we define, everyone is along for the ride.
*hugs Starla* so good to hear from you! =)