Q & A, continued

edit:(To be clear, the date on this post reflects when i actually began writing it, not when it was actually posted.)

So obviously it's not March anymore but i intend to get through these questions, whether it's Q & A month or not! Having said that, don't let the month's end stop any of you from asking a question, whenever you have one, please! Feel free to ask away and i'll do my best to answer whatever you come up with. =)

OK, onward!

Q: Do you ever openly or secretly disagree with your Master's decisions about things? If so do you discuss it with Him? What does He do if you disagree or argue?

A: Yes, i disagree with His decisions both openly and secretly. It depends on the severity of the matter whether or not i decide to speak up. Sometimes i decide to speak up when i shouldn't anyway. There are times when Master really does value my opinion, such as health care issues or some business matters.

There are times when He wants me to back out and completely be still and mind myself. It's difficult for me to watch if i believe i see Him making a mistake, even if it's something small. i have learned that if it's not a life or death mistake or something that will do no harm, i must butt out! i've also learned that i do not always have all the information so what i might deem as Master making a mistake, is really me being a "buddinsky".

There is a fine line though and how far do i go? Something very silly happened many years ago while Master and i were making some kind of food and a mistake was being made. i was as insistent as i dared to be. The only thing that would happen was that a few bits of food might not turn out perfect. It wasn't worth carrying on about. Master realized the mistake and asked me why i wasn't more persistent. There are limits, and levels of priority.


Q:What does He do if you disagree or argue?

A: i am the worst at coming up with little excuses. To me, i see it as "explaining". i have an explanation for everything and it's the littlest things i question. When He confronts me on things i ALWAYS have a "reason" as to why i did one thing or another. ALWAYS. This pretty much drives Him insane and i can't stop doing it, i can't stop because i don't wanna get in trouble. So i give Him a reason... i guess i think if i give Him an explanation then He won't punish me.

So it's not really the big decisions, we can work those out quite easily. It's the tiny daily things that are the challenges. It's me constantly trying to hold my tongue and remembering that i make mistakes and not EVERYTHING needs an explanation, even though i think it does. If He makes a decision, i don't need to wonder "why".

An example: Him: "Go take a shower."

Me: What i say: "Yes Master."

Me: What i think: How come He wants me to take a shower already? Are we going somewhere? i wonder if we're going to His Mom and Dad's house. i thought we were grilling out tonight. He never said for sure that we were grilling out tonight though so maybe we are leaving... huh. GREAT i don't even have anything out to grill for later. i wonder if He wants to have His Mom and Dad over for dinner, omgosh if we're leaving i'll never have time to get everything ready in time!! If we're grilling out, He's going to want to dog outside and i didn't give the dog his flea stuff yet, ugh we need to get that heartworm medicine from the vet, Master hates going to the vet. If we have to go to the vet Master is sure to get into it with that Vet, one of these days we're going to have to find a new vet and that will be such a pain cause we've had the same Vet for so long........


What Master was thinking: It's time for her to get in the shower.

Even though i didn't say all that stuff He knows i don't have blind faith and it shows. True, this might not technically be arguing, His decisions and instructions should be followed, period. So eventually, He'll lose it. But it takes a while because even though i make myself sound like a complete and utter basket case, i'm not really all that bad, usually. When we get off kilter, He will toss us back on track. One way or another. We had not been on par with each other for several days. So the other night He had me get in the shower with Him, i washed Him, then He put me on the floor of the shower to suck His cock wash His feet. After He got out He turned the water on what seemed like as cold as it would go. i'm sure it wasn't but it seemed like it, and left it. i was pretty sure i was going to die! LOL After i was good and freezing, He never let me get dressed the rest of the night, i was allowed only a short skirt. i was froze all night, Some people would say it's not much of a punishment but it's not something i'll soon forget. The disappointment is punishment enough.

Q: How often do you get punishment/correction? Does it always involve physical pain and or restraints or do you sometimes have other things like withholding of privileges, etc?

A: So an actual punishment depends on just how bad i've been. i don't really get too many proper punishments to be honest. i am only given a real thorough punishment when i have done something severe. That would be something like entering the house without Master's collar, using a swear word or perhaps eating without permission. Those are all major infractions, as Master calls them. =/

When i have done something that Master considers worthy of punishment then normally it will involve physical pain, restraint and sensory deprivation. Master doesn't take away privileges as a punishment because we do everything together. So if He takes something away from me, He's inconveniencing Himself. If He were to take the computer away from me, then He sits in the den alone, He takes TV away, He watches alone, etc.

As far as being restrained or in bondage, Master uses wrist and ankle cuffs very often. Not so much as a punishment though. i can't really say how often He places the cuffs on my ankle or wrists with an accurate number, maybe 4 or 5 out of 7 times a week. That's a guesstimate, but fairly accurate, i think. Of course, if we are home, i am wearing Master's collar. =)

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March Q & A, con't

Continued from the previous post. The same reader has asked the following questions:

Q: You have mentioned having talks about your Master's controlling behavior with His mum, are you "out" to your families about your BDSM Lifestyle?

A: We are not out to our families, no. Master's best friend who is not involved in the lifestyle at all, knows everything about us. We don't hide the fact that Master is certainly the decision maker and the head of the household, however. Master's Mom called this past week to ask if i could sub for their card party and i was quite clear that i would have to check "with the boss" to see if we had anything going on and see if it would be okay. That was not out of the ordinary to her as she didn't skip a beat when she said "oh sure, just call me back after you've talked to Him." Any chance i get with her or my sister i am quick to reaffirm the fact that we are happy with this arrangement.

Q: You frequently post pics of yourself on your blog, are you an exhibitionist by nature?

A: First i'll start off by saying i am shocked that this is the first time i've been asked this question! =) i would have thought it would have come up long before now! hahaha

The decision whether or not to post pictures nude pics of me on the blog was one Master toiled over for a very long time. It was actually a decision that He allowed me to have a say in, He allowed me to weigh in on quite heavily as it was my face that was going to be plastered all over the internet. =) my opinion was eh... if You think people will like 'em post 'em! If you go on that right there, you might say there is a bit of exhibitionist blood in me after all. i actually don't like to look at the nude photos though, so ... hmmmm. Go figure.

Q: Are you ordered to do that by your Master?:

A: Master posts the pictures on the blog and He usually lets me help Him choose which ones He posts.... usually. Sometimes He posts pictures that i totally hate and if i had a choice i wouldn't show them to anyone and i'd rather crawl in a hole. i think He loves that. =)

Q: Do you ever worry about any of your vanilla relations seeing you on line?

A: Ya know, i used to think about that all the time. When Master started putting up more and more pictures on Flikr and we started making clips, i thought about it a lot. Now though i think that if someone were to see me or Google "precious treasure" and happen to come up with one of our links i guess it's time for them to know the real me. It's not the ideal way for someone to find out and i certainly wouldn't want them to see me in all my glory but at least once in for all they would know who we were.

Q: One of the biggest complaints on Fetlife is not getting enough control, do you ever feel this way?

A: No, i really don't. Even though i'm really not a fan of the term, i would view that as "topping from the bottom" in the worst way. i mean i understand wanting more from your significant other and wanting more out of your relationship but that comes in time, not from demanding, whining, complaining or simply quitting because your Dominant isn't giving the exact amount of control you're seeking at the time. It's all about communication and willingness to submit to every single desire your Dom has. As soon as they recognize our true desire to serve them, the more confidence they'll have to assert their Absolute Control over us. i am a firm believer that subs and slaves are far too quick to point a finger first and then dive under the covers when it's time to take the blame. If we're to own up to more mistakes and allow those Doms to actually Dominate, we might find them on top sooner than we ever thought possible.

i too am very guilty of every single thing i have just spoken about. The important thing is that i recognize it and i'm working on it, but that doesn't mean much unless i remind myself of my short comings, and do it often.

More great questions to come! Thanks again!

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March Q & A

This post will be in several parts. Just the other night i received an email from a reader with a few detailed questions. i'll do my very best to answer one or two at a time.

Q: I've noticed you sometimes get flustered in crowds/public and have difficulty focusing, do you know what causes this?

A: There are a few things to which i can attribute this behavior. The more pain i'm in from the headaches, the more confused i become. If i have to perform a task that is unfamiliar to me it can really throw me into a frenzy and it can be something as mundane as making a purchase at a store. It's not really that i can't do it, it's because it's something i haven't done it repeatedly and i'm out of practice. i don't want to be a burden to others or make someone else irritated and because i get nervous often times i mess up or drop something, the cashier does in fact, become impatient. It's a vicious cycle and everything is situational. Once i'm flustered about one thing, it typically snowballs and i start to hurt more, become more confused and if i wasn't with Master at the time, once i find Him, i'm a ball of mush. If we were together at the time, if i am given time to collect myself, i might just be alright.

Interestingly enough i enjoy going to huge auctions or fairs or big shopping malls where there are lots of people. As long as i am sure that Master is with me and will be helping me if i want to make a purchase or a decision. Something else that sort of goes against the grain is that i can run through the grocery store with or without a list in hand alone and make decisions whippety snap with no help at all from anyone. It's something i am perfectly comfortable with and have done tons of times. UNLESS.... it's a really bad day and my pain level is just over the top, then all bets are off.

i am getting better though, the other night when we were at the casino, i misunderstood Master's instructions and we were separated. In the past, this would have undone me until i realized that it was alright for me to go play a machine on my own and the world wasn't going to end. Once we connected, He was totally fine with what i had done and turned out, the world hadn't ended and i didn't get flustered or upset.

So really i can't answer your question succinctly. For the most part, it stems from the pain causing confusion. Everything else is situational and environmental but i am getting better!

Q: Does your Master select the foods you eat?

A: This rule somewhat applies to this question:
#14 you will never eat anything without permission.

However, He really doesn't select what i eat. Master doesn't like the fact that i have such a sweet tooth however but He doesn't demand that i don't eat cookies or cakes and such. When we're shopping i don't just take it upon myself to toss cookies or treats such as donuts or cake in the cart. If i want something of that nature i have to ask for it.

Q: If so, always or just sometimes?

A: When it's time to make supper, He most generally leaves that up to me to decide what we're going to have, even after i've asked Him what He wants. Unless He's got a real desire for something, supper is up to me. He won't even tell me how much to eat, He wants me to eat until i'm full but He wants me to do that AT MEAL TIME. He doesn't care for snacking. When i ask for a snack the most He'll do is say that i am allowed to have something and of course He would rather i eat something healthy than something sugary.

Q: Has He ever put you on some kind of diet program, and if so, how did that go?

A: Right before we got married i was at my very heaviest weight, and i mean i was big. He really was unhappy with my weight, as was i. So He told me that He wanted me to lose weight and bought me some video tapes of pilates and Richard Simmons. i don't know what all i did at the time. He was pretty serious about me taking off some weight though. He never told me that it was "a rule" but He wasn't at all happy. i lost a little bit of weight but i think at most maybe ten pounds.

So no He's never done anything formal or anything but what i was trying to do on my own for Him was pretty pathetic. i was completely unmotivated because everything was going poorly in my life at the time, except for the fact that we were getting married. Right after that, everything got exponentially better and i was able to take off nearly 50 pounds.

Q: Does He control your weight?

A: Well yes in that He controls everything about me. If i were to start gaining again He would put an immediate stop to it, one way or another. He would really like for me to lose more weight, and He won't give me forever to lose it on my own. In Master's own words, He knows He is in the position to dictate what i do and when, it's difficult for Him to look at me and be the Pot that calls the kettle black, if you will. =)



Thank you for the questions! Stay tuned, many more awesome questions to come! =)

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Stupid Iowa Laws

i found this and thought it was cute so i'm stealing it from Ramblings of a Semi-Mad Man

Some of these are hilarious, some.... not so much. Enjoy!

•A man with a moustache may never kiss a woman in public.
• An owner or employee of an establishment in Iowa that sells alcohol can’t legally consume a drink there after closing for business.
• Don’t plan on running a “tab” in Iowa; it’s illegal.
• Horses are forbidden to eat fire hydrants in Marshalltown, Iowa.
• If a law enforcement officer is having a drink in a bar in Iowa and an employee pours water down the drain, the water is legally considered an alcohol beverage intended for unlawful purposes.
• In Dubuque any hotel in the city limits must have a water bucket and a hitching post in front of the building.
• In Fort Madison the fire department is required to practice fire fighting for fifteen minutes before attending a fire.
• In Marshalltown horses are forbidden to eat fire hydrants.
• In Ottumwa, Iowa, “It is unlawful for any male person, within the corporate limits of the (city), to wink at any female person with whom he is unaquainted.”
• Indianola: The “Ice Cream Man” and his truck are banned.
• It is a violation of the law to sell or distribute drugs or narcotics without having first obtained the appropriate Iowa drug tax stamp.
• It is illegal to hunt from an aircraft.
• It is illegal to accept a gratuity or tip in Iowa.
• It’s safe to make love while parked in Coeur d’Alene, Idaho. Police officers aren’t allowed to walk up and knock on the window. Any suspicious officer who thinks that sex is taking place must drive up from behind, honk his horn three times and wait approximately two minutes before getting out of his car to investigate.
• Kisses may last for as much as, but no more than, five minutes.
• One-armed piano players must perform for free.
• Ottumwa: Within the city limits, a man may not wink at any woman he does not know.
• Riverboat gamblers in Iowa have a $5 maximum bet.
• The Iowa Legislature once passed a resolution ordering the state cafeteria to start serving cornbread.
• Warn your hubby that after lovemaking in Ames, Iowa, he isn’t allowed to take more than three gulps of beer while lying in bed with you — or holding you in his arms.
• You may shoot Native Americans if there are more than five of them on your property at any one time.

Do you get any satisfaction out of having sex besides just cumming?

Actually, for me an orgasm is really pretty low on my priority list when Master and i are having sex. It's all about Him and making Him feel good. Nearly all my sexual satisfaction is emotionally stimulated. Once i know that Master is really turned on, it's then that i get physically stimulated as well. One fire lights another, if you will.

It takes a while to get my motor running but once i get going physically i still need mental and emotional stimulation to orgasm. So sex for me hasn't ever been about crossing the finish line, getting there is nearly ALL the fun! *s*

Master set a rule long ago that will never have an orgasm without permission so i don't know if there is any correlation to this next point i'm about to make or not, i believe there is. Not long after Master made that rule, i have no idea when, i found that it became more and more difficult to orgasm without thinking about Him in some way or another. i used to like to read romance novels or smut books and even those, had to be put aside and i was left with my thoughts of Master. To this day if i want to orgasm, i can't unless i think about Him. i think it's all about mental, emotional and physical conditioning and i wouldn't have it any other way. If one were to ask Him if He planned this into my training, i would think He might say this was just 'Happy Accident'. =)

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Reminder: March Q & A

Reminder: March is Q & A Month! You can post your questions in the comments section or mail me at precioustreassure_md@yahoo.com. You're also welcome to do as many others have and just send them through my Formspring on the side bar!

Of course you don't have to stop your questions rolling in when March ends! i'm always happy to answer whatever you can come up with, if i'm able.

Rings and Things

Quite some time ago i wrote about how Master decided i was going to have labia piercings and He actually did the piercings Himself. Unfortunately after a few months one had to come out because it was really causing a lot of pain. The other one remained in but the entire time i could tell it was tearing but i still wanted to keep it in as long as Master would allow.

As of yesterday, He decided enough was enough and He took it out. i'm really sad about it because i loved those piercings. Not just because i loved the piercings themselves but because Master did them and now He took the second one out. i understand why and He was right of course. It was tearing during every day normal activity but that wasn't the real problem that Master had. He said it was getting in the way during sex and it was. Every time we had sex it would tear more and it would hurt badly, so yeah it had to go. It's just a bummer. There will be more piercings i'm just not sure when.

Speaking of piercings, Master ordered new nipple jewelry for me and i can't wait till it gets here! He has tunnels that will sit just inside the nipple and He ordered huge captive bead rings that will hang through the tunnels. i believe they are 1 1/8 around, which is as large as we could find to get exactly what we were looking, for the price we wanted to pay =). i haven't had new nipple jewelry for a couple years and i'm excited about the new look and larger rings. =)

Last Saturday Master and i went out for dinner. We had planned this dinner for a long time because Master wanted to go out for Corned Beef and Cabbage and we love to go to this casino. Okay, well i love to go to the casino and Master loves the food! It works out well for both of us. So since it was a lovely day, i decided to wear a nice spring outfit and a pair of shoes that Master got me for Christmas. i had only worn these shoes around the house yet as they were summery shoes so this was their virgin tour!

Master and i headed into the casino for our evening and when i'm in a very public place like that where it's very populated i try to be aware of my surroundings. In case Master and i are separated which does happen from time to time, of course it's always with Master's permission. Now you would think that people had never seen a lady in a cute dress and heels before, i kid you not. The dress i was wearing was a perfectly acceptable length, well below my knees and not at all low cut there was nothing immodest about it whatsoever. Coupled with the shoes though, one might have thought i was asking $500 an hour for my services and the women all wished i would just leave.

When Master and i are just out shopping in our hometown or at the mall, i really don't notice anything at all like at the casino. Either that or i am not as keenly aware as i was in the highly populated area.

You know it's not like i walk around with my head in the sky or nose in the air thinking i'm better than anyone else. i have never been that girl, i couldn't be that girl. i'm that girl you see at the grocery store that constantly says excuse me (because i'm a clutz lol) or the one that smiles at a stranger. i don't think i'm any different than anyone else. i get my clothes from Goodwill and WalMart and we shop at Aldi. i just happen to choose to dress in a different fashion than others. i don't look down on anyone else for choosing what they wear and it's unfair that i should have to continuously defend my choices. i feel as though i should be able to walk through the woods or the mall or the Amusement Park in a dress and heels and not be scoffed at for wearing what i feel comfortable wearing. If a man wanted to wear a suit through the woods, people would just believe he was a business man talking a walk on his lunch. If a lady is in the woods in a dress, she looks ridiculous. i don't want to look ridiculous, i want to look like me. =)

Once we lost all our money ($20) at the casino it was time to go home. Master had planned ahead for the ride home. He told me to remove my glasses and whenever He says that i know that it will be a dark ride home for me! It's sort of nice to have a change of pace though, these rides always go by very quickly and i'm always shocked when we arrive home.


We weren't home long before Master decided the evening wasn't quite over yet! i was just getting settled and getting all the animals taken care of when i heard Him call to me from the bedroom. There really are few reasons that He'll call out to me from the bedroom. It doesn't take a rocket scientist to figure out what His plan was for me. =)

It was a long day but a good one. i only wish we'd have won the jackpot at the casino!

Peace and blessings to you and yours,

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I hope I'm not out of line asking, or asking a question that's been asked. I've seen you have pain issues due to headaches. What's the cause?

Please forgive me for the length of time it's taken me to answer your question.

The simple answer to your question is; No one has been able to figure out the cause. i have had these headaches for going on 14 years now. The only thing anyone knows for sure is that i have cluster headaches http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cluster_headache, more commonly seen in men than in women. i've seen countless doctors and they've run countless tests and poked so many holes in me i could probably be sold for a sprinkler system. =p

At this point i'm not even sure how much time i've spent in the hospitals being made sicker than i was when i first entered. There simply have been no answers as to what is causing my pain. The only hope i've been given is that perhaps when my change of life happens there may be some lessening of the pain. Of course this would suggest that the pain is hormonal and could mean that the pain could subside completely. That is my hope!!!! =) =)

Thank you for the question. As long as i've been writing i don't believe i've ever really given an explanation as to why i have the headaches or their origin. i wrote a bit more about my pain when i first started blogging but then realized it was becoming redundant and as long as i'm going to write about my life as a slave, that's what i should write about!

i have learned some great tips for pain relief other than drug therapy though in my time dealing with the headaches. So there are some good things that have come from this. That and because of these headaches, i met Master, i never would have met Him had it not been for them. At this time i take only Tylenol for pain, i take no narcotics whatsoever. my MD has me on a daily med regimen to decrease the pain but i am on no addictive medication for pain control. At this time i am even working on reducing the frequency in which i take the Tylenol. That's what works for me.

Again, thank you very much for the opportunity to answer this question. =)

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It is not natural for anyone to want to give up all personal freedom and submit to servitude 24/7. What motivates you to want to be a slave?

There really are so many things that motivate me to live my life this way, every day. i know you said it's not natural to submit to servitude but i'm not positive i would agree with that. Until very recently the woman was always submissive to her husband and the man was always the head of the home. Additionally, it wasn't until recently did couples begin to divorce so frequently. i know that the argument can be made that those women were kept in the confines of their marriage due to societal expectations, as well. However, i don't really look at it as such, i look at it as when one person is at the helm, things run smoother. That is why there is typically one head of a company with assistance as needed.

So i have strayed from the original topic to make a point, my life couldn't feel more natural. i crave everything that this life and Master offer me. i crave the structure and rules He has set in place, i love knowing that there will be very few gray areas for me. It will always be my job to support Him and He will always be the decision maker. my "job" in life is to please my Husband in every conceivable way, follow His rules and be the fun loving lady He fell in love with. The rest of the hard work falls on Him.

Slavery gets a bad rap, i am truly rewarded for my submission. There are times when i'm not fully present in my role, physically. Yet on those days i am no less of a slave than on any other. Master owns me, the whole of me, the best and the worst of me. i am completely free in my slavery, i have never felt as free and as carefree as i did the day He collared me and told me He would care for me the rest of my days.

i am very thankful for the opportunity to answer your question!

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Signs Signs Everywhere Signs

Master did something to His back, He's been having a hard time taking a deep breath for the last week and 1/2 or so. It's more than that but that's the only way to describe it without going into specific detail. Something needs to change and only today did He tell me that i was to make Him an appointment with the Chiropractor. He's only gone once before since we've been together and i'm thrilled that He finally allowed me to call!

The title is misleading i just liked it for this post!!! There's only *one* sign!! =) Just because Master's back isn't working doesn't mean His brain isn't! This past week He placed a sign on the bathroom door. The sign is to remind me of the most important things and get me to engage in those thoughts every time i walk by or walk into the bathroom. So far it's worked.

This is how the sign reads:.

Are you thinking about sex?
I am.

Are you in Bondage?
Should you be?

Are you violating any rules?

Do you look into the mirror and
see My perfect slave?

That's it, that's the entire sign. It's simple and that's the point, embarrassingly enough i admit that all too often i'll look down and realize there's something about me or on me that is most definitely violating a rule. The answer to the last one is and will always be "not yet" or "almost" from me. That's not one that i can answer "yes" to with any confidence. All i can do is make it my goal every day. i think the day i say "yes" is the day i stop trying.

Now i just have to move it down a little bit, Master put it at HIS eye level not at mine! hahaha... He told me i could move it if i needed to, it's just up there so perfectly i hate to mess with it! =)

Peace to you and yours,

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Reminder: March is Q & A Month... If you have something you'd like to ask me. Shoot me an email at precioustreasure_md@yahoo.com or you can leave it in the comments section.

An Escape Route?

It's amazing that we had to set our clocks ahead last night. We didn't even have a winter this year and i know everyone says that's fine with them. i'm not sure how i'll feel about it once the mosquitoes and the vast array of other bugs pop up and we can't get rid of them though. We never got that good deep freeze we needed. Anyway it just seems so early for spring i guess, it's over 60 degrees here today!

Master seems like He's feeling much better and i'm really glad of that. i'm hoping He'll be back to what is normal for *Him* soon! hahaha!!! =p

So here's another good one from the chat room;

This one i just let slide right off my back because it was SO stupid but i thought it might give something to think about. Again the general consensus was agreeable to this statement. Women in all relationships should have an escape plan. Be it a secret credit card or a bank account with a little money stashed away. If the relationship is strictly on line they should certainly already have another user ID in place so they can delete the one they have been using and continue on with their on line life, should this relationship go south. Some thought another good idea, EVEN in a long term marriage, is that you should have a good friend or family member to go to, set up IN ADVANCE, "just in case".

This is my theory:

People wonder why so many relationships fail when they are entered into with that type of attitude and lack of trust. Of course you're not going to have a success in your partnership if you don't look at it as such. If you go into a relationship as you against me, you will never become one and the trust just can't exist. Whatever happened to a little vulnerability? Whatever happened to falling in love and jumping in feet first and taking a chance on love? That's what our friends and family are there for, we're bound to make mistakes in life but we have to count on them to pick up the pieces!

Of course there's always that literal person out there who is going to take me completely at my word. i'm not saying go into every relationship with blinders on, i'm simply saying take a chance by truly loving someone. Seriously this whole needing to have a way out and keeping secret accounts, to me is really lying to your partner. It's almost blatantly saying that you have no faith that your relationship will stand the test of time and you're selling yourself short. i believe that if you know you have a way out, you just won't give everything you've got. Why should you? If you're not sure what you would do or where you might live, if your relationship failed, you'd work your tail off to make it work. In the end you're so very thankful you did because there's a loving and successful relationship to show from all that work and devotion. That's my theory anyway. =)

i'm off to take a walk on this lovely day.

Peace to you and yours,

MD's treasure

Who Needs Who

Bloggers Block. i opened this window quite some time ago and for the life of me i just can't find the words? The topic? i don't know what it is. i said as much to Master and His response? "you write because I tell you to write." Okay then, i guess i better get writing.

So i started this post yesterday and abandon it but i'm back to finish it now.

This is what i've come up with; i've been visiting some chat rooms a few times in the last couple of weeks. i've been trying to learn the dynamics, i thought it might be good to see how they interact on line these days because back when i was chatting ten years ago, things were probably much different. Turns out, they weren't really. There is still a protocol to follow and lots of people looking to hook up, there are just more of them.

In this particular room that i've been frequenting there was a discussion that i found particularly interesting. Can (should) a Dom(mme) "need" His or Her sub? The general consensus was an emphatic NO! In fact, they said that if any Dom actually needed His or Her sub, they didn't belong in the lifestyle and had no business having a sub at all. No Dom or Domme should ever need a sub, ever.

Now as i mentioned i haven't spoken in the room so i felt it would have been wildly inappropriate for me to force my way into the subject and make my opinion known. So i shut up and kept my opinion to myself, as difficult as that was. However, this is as good a place as any to share it! Now i don't know what kind of relationships these people are referring to but if i look inside my own 24/7,TPE,APE,M/s,D/s,Marriage i need my Master/Husband more than He needs me, but my Husband NEEDS me, end of sentence. Are they serious? We live it every day and just as anyone else who is in a committed relationship be it BDSM or NOT, will tell you, there are times when you not only need your significant other, you cling to them for dear life through a crisis situation. That might be one of the most ridiculous things i've heard in a while.

i felt the need to write about that here because it was the wrong time for me to speak up in that chat room. i hope that no Dom ever feels like they have to go through a relationship feeling as though they can't need their significant other because they heard somewhere one time that it might make them appear weak to their sub. There are so many things i could have said at the time to solidify my position but as always, i want to be respectful and i just don't believe i would have appeared respectful at all.

It's a beautiful day here today but Master has been feeling a bit off lately so i'm not sure if we'll be able to get out and take advantage of the day or not. i just hope Master is back to His normal Self soon! =)

i should remind folks that March is Q & A month! If you have a question you would like to ask me you're welcome to post it in the comments section or email me at precioustreasure_md@yahoo.com.

Have a wonderful Saturday!

MD's treasure

Count Your Blessings

This week has been fairly cruddy and i'm happy it's behind us. We had to take the dog to the Vet on Monday for his shots and to have a sore in his mouth looked at. That alone was a couple hundred dollars and we were expecting that. We were also expecting that he would have to have the sore in his mouth removed and that would be an extra expense. What we weren't really expecting was that this extra procedure would total $500. So this week we spent $730 on our 12 pound dog! However, he is not in any pain and has better breath and should be good to go for a long time!!!! That is wonderful news!

Master and i had to have the dog at the vet yesterday morning at 8:15am and then we were on the road to the university hospital for an appointment for me. Little did we know that we were going to get caught in the blizzard of the year! my appointment was weird because i was running on forty minutes of sleep and i rambled for a few minutes until Master got me back on track and helped me focus. Basically after dancing around the issues i think they are going to adjust my medicine, it took an hour to come up with that conclusion, however. Either way, i hope it works and the pain is lessened.

So here we are an hour away from home with almost no sleep for either of us, in the middle of a flipping blizzard and i'm not even making this up. It's a white out and in less than 2 hours the roads are terrible and of course they aren't going to send out the plows until it stops. i am saying to myself that i'm going to be quiet and not let my phobia of bad weather take over and i'm going to just be still. i didn't do as well as i thought i did because either Master just knows what i'm thinking without me using my voice or i said more than i wanted to. No matter what i did or didn't say though Master made all the right decisions and didn't let me influence Him and when we started home the roads were nearly completely clear.

i wasn't as supportive and totally subservient to Him yesterday as i was telling myself i was being. i had wanted to be completely silent about my own fear but i think He just knows me way too well. He knew i wanted to go right home, He knew i didn't want to be out in the storm and i couldn't keep my mouth shut no matter how hard i tried. Thankfully He also knows that it doesn't matter how scared i am, He will make the decisions and He'll do what's best and safest for us, every time. All i can do is try harder next time and every time after that.

We made it home, exhausted and safe, $700 poorer, with a healthy little doggy.

It was a good day to count your blessings and that's what we did before we laid down for a nap.

Peace to you and yours,

MD's treasure

Q & A

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March Is Q&A Month

March is Q&A month!

Hit me up with whatever is on your mind. You can send questions via the comments section or in an email: precioustreasure_md@yahoo.com

Rest assured that your questions will remain anonymous.

Thanks and have fun, i look forward to hearing from you!

MD's treasure