Submission Is Not Negative

In the years that i've been reading blogs and writing myself, i've read so many wonderful descriptions and explanations of submission, too many to count i'm sure.  The other day i ran across a wonderful account of one slaves perspective and it's just struck me, deeply.

We've never done anything like this before but after getting Master's permission of course, i sent her an email and asked her if she'd allow me to feature her post on my blog.

The following post was taking directly as it was written from:

 Diary of an Owned Slave    

Submission Is Not Negative

Every so often I get comments from people I know, and people I don't know, saying that because I am a woman and because I submit to my man that I must be incredibly weak.

Quite the contrary.

In fact, I find that I am possibly the strongest I have ever been in my entire life. It takes guts and a LOT of trust to put your life and decisions into the hands of someone else. It does not make a person weak, it just means we have a huge amount of trust with the person we are putting that much control into. I trust that my Master knows what is best for me, and He has yet to prove me wrong.

"You're weak and pathetic."

Not really. If any of us is pathetic, it is those who think that submission is as simple as lying down and "doing what the man says." It's not that black and white. In fact, it's not like that at all. I submit because it is what makes me feel like me. I submit because I enjoy it. I submit because it is something both Master and I need in our relationship. It is what works best for us. That is in no way translated to weakness, and if anyone thinks it is, please refer to a dictionary and come back to me.

"You're just lazy and don't want to make decisions."

Wrong again. I can make decisions just fine, and truly, how am I lazy when I do chores for Master, tend to His needs, and go about my duties? That sounds less lazy and more active than anything. So please explain that to me. Truly, I can make any decision I please, and the most important decisions in my life are still MY decisions. Master will always have a say, it's how we work, but that does not mean I can not think for myself.

Submission does not equal weakness, laziness, indecisiveness, or anything else negative a person can think of. Submission is beautiful and it can be very uplifting, freeing, and even healing. I have found that since I have submitted to my Master I am a stronger person. I have a certain guidance that I have always needed and that is nothing short of a positive thing. I submit to Him because I know that I can trust Him.

This is not an abusive relationship. We are both consenting adults who know what they are getting into. I am not a mindless zombie at the whim of some evil man. I am Anastassia. A proud slave to my Master, and I have no reason to be ashamed of that.

~*~Anastassia~*~



i would like to thank Anastassia and her Master for allowing us to feature her post on my blog.  What a beautiful and honest account of what submission can and should be!

Peace to you and yours,

MD's treasure 

Formspring Question- Panties

 I understand you not having an issue with working in church and selling porn but do you go to church in a girdle and stockings without panties? If you do, THAT'S HOT!

 

 You're right, i don't have an issue working in the church or selling porn.  Both are services that we provide that i feel good about. 

So to answer your question, yes i do wear my girdle and stockings with a slip, and my choice of skirt or dress at all times, wherever i go.  Quite a few years ago Master told me that i wasn't going to be allowed to wear panties anymore.  i suppose what i consider to be my "regular daily clothing might just be a little out of the ordinary for people today. 

We don't attend Sunday church services unless it's a special occasion.  But as usual, i would be dressed as i would be on any other day!  So i wouldn't wear panties, even if we were going to church.  Master doesn't allow panties anywhere! (unless i have a visitor =/ )

i won't lie and say that sometimes i feel a bit more exposed than others without panties. It certainly depends on the length of my dress or skirt.  If i am wearing a particularly short skirt due to the heat or something, i am VERY aware of the fact that i'm not wearing panties no matter where i am, including to work. i don't wear anything obscene. =) 

i really do everything in these clothes including go hiking!  =)









Last weekend, Master and i went to a local state park and we started off on a trail which lead to a fairly long and rigorous hike.  i was wearing flats for the hike though! =)

Thank you so much for the question.

MD's treasure

Slave And Servant

i was stumped for something to write about today so i went to submissive journal prompts and i was reminded of something Master and i were talking about when we were at work last night.

Master and i ironically enough work at a church.  So if you're a new reader, yes we do in fact sell porn and work at a church.  Neither Master nor i take issue with that, we're perfectly happy providing a service in each aspect.  Master made a remark about working at the church and i said that i really like working there, for me it reminds me of my place in the world.

Because of what i do at the church, i do a lot of cleaning, i feel good about the cleaning and it gives me a chance to serve.  We don't get paid much but it's what the church can afford and it makes me personally feel good to do it.  Master told me that my place in this world is to serve Him. my place in this world is to serve Him, absolutely and totally to serve Him.  i agree, of that there is no question.

i have always had a yearning i guess you could call it, to help and serve others.  i need to feel needed and to "do".  That's why i worked in long term care it gave me a chance to try to make their lives better, in every way i could possibly imagine, but i didn't work in direct patient care.

When there was a need though and they were short on the floor, we stepped up and got in there to help out.  i did the best i could, haha, those poor people they were the ones who had to be patient with me! =) 

i couldn't help but feel a twinge of guilt as i walked away from the conversation thinking i should have answered Master differently.  i feel as though i've been put on this earth to make some sort of small difference, if someone in my presence is in need, i can't sit by and look the other way (with Master's permission of course).  i also know in my heart that i was made to be Master's slave, i don't feel that the two need to be mutually exclusive.

Master usually indulges me when i want to do something for someone, especially if it's been for His parents or if it won't cost a ton of money.  If my ideas are really "out there" then He'll reel me back in and tell me that it's just not possible. i guess i sort of had an epiphany in that while i am most certainly Master's slave, wife, lover, servant, first,  i think i'll always be a willing servant in my heart.  i don't think that's a bad thing as long as Master approves of my activities.

Peace to you and yours,

MD's treasure 
          

In It Together

As with every area in our relationship Master and i have clearly defined roles.  Master is the one who likes to shop and spend money and i'm the one who is more ... frugal shall we say?  Master calls it cheap!  i'm not cheap i just like to be a little more careful... hrrmph. 

Master however is in charge of our finances, He pays all the bills, takes care of everything.  Pretty much every cent that is spent is spent by Master.  i have a few little pennies here and there but it's really pocket change.  i do have ways to access money immediately, of course. 

That being said, even though Master is in complete control of our finances and buys whatever He wants whenever He wants it, if there is a purchase that is out of the ordinary more often than not, He wants my opinion.  Sometimes i think He wants my opinion simply for that, just to see what i think is the better of two options or to see if i think we need that particular item at that time, what have you. 

The other side of the coin is this; Master will ask my opinion about something that He knows i'm not in favor of, yet His mind is really nearly made up.  It's clearly masochistic.  Now it's a fine line, because i am appreciative and respectful of Master because He values my opinions enough to allow me to weigh in on lots of things.  He really considers my opinion.  Other times, He'll ask me what i think and then do exactly what He was going to do in the first place.  Why? Cause He's DaBoss.  Even if i think it's a great big ole mistake. 

Here's what i don't do.  i don't sit back and give Him a great big bowl of "i told You so" if it doesn't work out.  Once a decision is made, we're in it for the long haul together.  i WANT things to go well in every situation and i want Him to be happy all the time.  That's why when i do give my opinion, i hope it's the right one, for both of us.

Master does the same for me.  If i want something and i'm just not sure if it's the right thing at the right time, He'll let me fail.  He weighs in on everything but He will let me make some of my own decisions on some things. Such as things for the yard (decorations/trees) or things that He knows i'll be the primary user.  If i mess up, we're in it together. =)

Yesterday we spent the entire day at the nursing home with His Mom and had a really wonderful day.  It was just Master and i with His Mom and it was quiet and uninterrupted.  Today and tomorrow we're home with very few plans.  i don't remember a time when we were able to spend time together, getting a few things done at home and working on projects that need to be done here.

i hope that everyone has a safe and fun holiday weekend!

Peace to you and yours,

MD's treasure